Friday, March 01, 2013

Is Your Group Too Small?

If you’re the smartest person in your group, your group is too small. Find people who will challenge you to stretch to the next level and become everything you can be.

In my working career I have attended many meetings. Sometimes in these meetings I thought I was either the smartest person in the room or the dumbest. There have been other groups and situations that I was involved in where I eventually felt the need to leave. In some cases I felt like I no longer fit in or the group no longer met my needs. There have also been situations where I just felt that I had no more to give. Most of us like our comfort zones and to be honest I hate when people tell me I need to get out of my comfort zone. Yeah, I know that if you are not being challenged you are probably not growing but I prefer to live and grow on my own schedule and not based on other people’s expectations, desires, and timetables. Life is always pushing you into new territory whether you like it or not. There is a saying that goes “when the fruit is ripe it will fall to the ground”. Another saying that I like is “when the student is ready, the teacher will appear”. I think I am self-aware enough to know when the fruit of my own life is ripe or when I am ready for a new teacher. One must always look for signs…and warnings…that it is time to move on. Good self- awareness also alerts us to our own stagnations and this also prompts us to move on. Life tends to unfold at its own pace and in ways that are appropriate for us as individuals. I see my whole life as a journey. There have been milestones and accomplishments and times where I just stayed put for a while. Marriage and family life have given me an outer stability in my life but internally I have always been on the move and in search of my ultimate destiny. I believe my greatest successes are still in front of me. As I’ve said to many co-workers over the years, when I leave here no one will remember any of the work I did. What they will remember the most are the written thoughts I have shared. I hope they also remember how I treated them and that I could be very funny. If I was a betting man I would put my money on writing as my ultimate destiny. If anything is pushing me to my next level it is writing and my goal of publishing a book.

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