Tuesday, April 06, 2010

Hermit Night In My Man Cave


Once a week my wife watches all her favorite television shows that she has recorded. These are generally television shows that I could go the rest of my life without watching. I love when she does this because I get to have a hermit night. Tonight is such a night. It was a busy day at work. On the way home we had dinner at the Texas Roadhouse followed by errands at several local businesses. My work day was pleasant and I really didn't mind running the errands but I was ecstatic to know I had an evening ahead of me where I could hang out in my room, listen to music, load a few CD's on my ipod, and continue reading "Gilead" by Marilynne Robinson. My wife and I have been married for almost 36 years. I think part of the reason we are still married is that each of us recognizes our own personal need for space. Once at a wedding shower all the married women were asked to give the bride to be some marriage advice. My wife's advice was "Each of you needs to find your own space and stay there as much as possible". This advice was given tongue in cheek but there's a lot of truth to it. Too much togetherness can be too much togetherness. Thank God my wife is an introvert like me. So I am sitting here with my second cup of tasty, but decaffeinated, coffee. As soon as I finish typing these notes and downloading my CD's, I am moving over to my comfortable chair and reading for as long as I can stay awake. These hermit nights feed my soul and refresh me. By morning I will be ready once again to live in the land of people.

1 comment:

Bryan Sherwood said...

A man after my own heart.